Fetish in the age of Covid-19

Let’s be honest, no one expected any of this. 

If I’d be able to choose my own apocalypse I’d have definitely chosen some sort of ‘the walking dead’ or ‘Umbrella corporation’ related chemical disposal wasteland; but working from home, getting fat, barely being able to move my fat ass from the chair to the bed and vice versa wasn’t exactly how I imagined the next financial crisis to be like.

Can we wear gas masks in public now?

Ok, I’ll keep my mouth shut cause I know how privileged I am to have a job and work from home. It’s just that we as social creatures find it hard to be locked indoors and void of human contact. When you add Fetish into the mix, then this isolation feels even more sad and emotionless.

Of course, many people around the world are suffering on various levels difficult to describe: lack of work, money, friends, family, health issues, etc…. The list can be endless if we start adding up personal tragedies, deaths, health insurance and the whole myriad of invoices attached to it.

Yes, we know Fetish is not the #1 priority for most, unless you’re a Fetish-related performer or own a Fetish club, otherwise it’s something most people don’t tend to include when they have to describe their basic needs for survival.

But Fetish is also socializing, is a way to express yourself and build a community around you based on some common goals and beliefs, a shared feeling of respect, love and support that’s difficult to match in other places. 

Don’t let COVID19 stop you from reaching out to friends and fetish community.

Fetish isn’t about purchasing expensive clothes and showing off in front of others (like the old saying goes: “buying expensive things we don’t need to show off to people we don’t know”); even though sometimes it feels that some people do this constantly, it’s actually a minority rather than the rule for most.

“We are social animals and isolation is bad for us”

Dan Savage

This isolation can be gruesome for many people, including me, since fetish is more about identity, community support and overcoming fears. Having this cut off from your social interaction can take a toll on how well you can perform other tasks, including work or even more mundane chores like arranging our living space and being nice to ourselves.

Unfortunately all face-to-face activities are postponed until further notice.

But, what can we do to overcome the situation? The WHO has some basic self care policies for everybody, regardless of the situation or location:

  1. Take care of your body:  eat healthy, well-balanced meals, exercise regularly, and get plenty of sleep (avoid alcohol, tobacco, and other drugs)
  2. Connect with others: Share your concerns and how you are feeling with a friend or family member. Maintain healthy relationships and build a strong support system.
    1. Search for online team meetings: Most fetish community groups are gathering online for a once-a-week chat via Zoom, Google Hangouts or any other video platform. Try to join them from your computer or phone to stay in touch with them.
      1. A simple Facebook search will show you these meetings or reach out to us via Facebook for support.
  3. Take breaks. Make time to unwind.
  4. Stay informed: Watch, listen to, or read the news for updates from officials (avoid gossip and rumours). 
  5. Avoid too much exposure to news: Take breaks from watching, reading, or listening to news stories.
  6. Seek help when needed: reach out to family, close friends, experienced health or psychology professionals. Don’t be afraid to ask for help, we’re all going through this together.

Find more info on: 

https://hr.uw.edu/coronavirus/self-care/

https://www.eastbayexpress.com/oakland/dan-savage/Content?oid=13906067